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The Dink Shot: Part 3 – How to Perfect the Dink

The Dink Shot: Part 3 – How to Perfect the Dink

Pickleball Strategy from the Pickleball Guru

Get Your Paddle Up, Out & In Front of Your Chest Before & After Every Shot

This is true for every shot, of course, but especially when you are at the net, you need to be ready for a high fast shot, or a low soft shot, so keeping your paddle up in the ready position between each shot is crucial.

The other tips to hit a good dink are…very similar to the tips I gave in 4 Secrets to Get Your Dropshot to Go Where You Want (and Not Where You Don’t)

Hit the Ball Just Before the Second Bounce

After the ball bounces, you actually have much more time than you expect to hit it before it bounces again. Many players try to take the ball after the bounce & before the ball reaches the top of the next arch. But in order to get the most control of your shot, you need to wait and hit the ball AFTER it has passed the top of the arch, while it’s on it’s way back down, and right before it is going to make a a second bounce. Now I realize this is a question of seconds or milliseconds, but it really will make a big difference the longer you can wait to hit the ball.

This gives you more time to see where your opponents are positioning themselves, so that you can position the ball where they are not. The ball has also slowed down considerably by the time it gets there, so you have less speed to counteract.

Lift With Your Knees

Don’t just use your arm.  Bend your knees, push down into your feet and LIFT the ball using your whole body.

Don’t Swing & Hit: Play Out In Front of You

One mistake many players make is to do a large back swing before hitting the ball.  Likewise, you don’t need a huge follow-through and in fact, doing so will keep you from being prepared for the next shot.  Just “scoop the ball” over the net.  Really, if you’re hitting a dink shot, your paddle never needs to be more than about 45° left or right of front & center.

2 Drills to Improve the Dink Shot

Hula hoops (which you can pick up at nearly any $1 store or Walmart) are one of my favorite tools for drilling, however chalk or masking tape can also be used in many cases.

To Improve Your Placement

Place the hula hoop (or tape) on the ground, toward the center of the kitchen/no-volley zone, positioned right up against the net.  From the opposite side, practice hitting your dinks so that the ball drops into the hula hoop. If you are practicing alone, you can drop the ball in front of you, and hit it off the bounce.  If you’re practicing with a partner, have them watch their step around the hula hoop and simply return the ball to you.  (Or put a hula hoop on each side so you can both practice at once.) Shoot to get 10 in a row.  Then move your body 2 feet to the right and keep practicing aiming for hula hoop.  Once you can hit 10 in a row there, move back to 2 feet to the left of your original position (so a right-handed person will be hitting a backhand), and repeat the drill.  After mastering these 3 positions, you can move the hula hoop about 3-4 feet left and right, and repeat all 3 positions.  Eventually, you can practice cross-court dinking by having the hula hoop against the net all the way on one side of the court, while you dink from the opposite side of the court. hula-hoop-kitchen-example

To Improve Control Over the Height

Using simple quick-grip clamps (or possibly zip-ties) position the hula-hoop in a vertical position parallel to and against the net, so that approximately 1/3 to half of the hula hoop is suspended above the net.   Then practice hitting your dink above the net & through the hula hoop. hula-hoop-net-example

Once you have mastered both of these drills you can combine them by aiming the ball through the hoop on the net so it lands in the hoop on the ground.

What’s Your Experience?

So, that’s what *I* know & have to say about the dink.  What’s your experience been?  Was this article helpful?  Please post your comments and questions below.

3-part series on how to perfect the dink shot

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The Guru’s Pickleball Strategy

3-part series on how to perfect the dink shot

Dinking – a game of patience – will help you to win tournaments. Knowing how to dink well does take practice, but there are some ways to practice that can make you a great dinker.

This three-part series is ready for you to learn more about the dink shot then ever before, like understanding the difference between the dink and the drop and where exactly it should drop. I’ll also go over how to control the speed and angle of the ball. And finally, we’ll review some drills that you can use to improve on these skills.

I invite you to visit ThePickleballGuru.com to understand exactly how to hit the Dink.

Pickleball Rules – Learn & Play!

Pickleball Rules – Learn & Play!

http://pickleballhelp.com/teachings/about-pickleball/pickleball-rules/

Looking for Pickleball Rules?  You’ve come to the right place.

Rules for Pickleball Serving

Service must be underhand to the diagonal box.

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The first person to serve each turn is the one on the right-hand side (deuce side) of court.

Each person on a team gets 1 chance to serve, for a total of 2 chances per team.  The first server serves until they don’t win the point, then the serve passes to the second player until they don’t win the point, then serve passes to the other team.  Unlike tennis, where a server could potentially double-fault, here each server only gets 1 chance.

The “Tricky” Pickleball Rules

  • Return of Serve MUST Bounce
  • You may NOT hit the ball in the air (volley it) if you are in the no-volley zone (see diagram).
  • You MAY hit the ball if you are in the no-volley zone AS LONG AS THE BALL BOUNCES BEFORE you hit it.

Pickleball Scoring

Don’t worry if you don’t catch on to the scoring right away, or if you have a hard time remembering what the score is during the game.   The rules of Pickleball and the excitement of the game make it hard for anybody (of ANY age) to remember!

  • One Game to 11 Points, Win by 2 — You only score points when your team serves.
  • Server calls the score before each serve
  • The score consists of 3 numbers:
    • The Serving Team’s Score is called first,
    • The Receiving Team’s Score is called second, and
    • The 3rd number is either a 1 or 2 – – – The 3rd number indicates if it is the serving team’s 1st or 2nd chance to serve.
  • Score at start of game is “0-0-Start” because the first team to serve a game only gets 1 chance to serve.  When they lose the point, serve passes to other team.

So those are the basic Pickleball rules.  Any questions?  Just contact me!

Pickleball Drill: Walk the Kitchen Line

Pickleball Drill: Walk the Kitchen Line

Pickleball practice drill written by Jacquee Ware, a fan of the Pickleball Guru.
Two players start at the opposite ends of the kitchen line across the net from each other.  Then doing nothing but dinks, using both the forehand and backhand shots, walking the kitchen line placing the ball just in front (they use their forehand dink shot) or behind (using the backhand shot — no fair running around to the forehand of the player across the net.  This allows for a player to get really comfortable at the kitchen line with the dink game and allows a player to learn how to place the ball where they really want to instead of just “guessing” where it’s going to go. Also, the practice helps keep the ball low to the net instead of sending it high for someone with very long arms or a poacher to put away the ball.
It’s really helped me out in pickleball. I used to do it a lot playing tennis, but since I really was a baseliner most of the time, it only helped when I was at the service line. But, I was able to get to a lot of shots that most people thought were winners and able to control the ball to wherever I wanted to place it (that is, again, once I got there!).
If you have a tip or drill that you’d like to share, send it along and we’ll post it here.

4 Secrets to Get Your Dropshot to Go Where You Want

4 Secrets to Get Your Dropshot to Go Where You Want

Last month I had someone write in asking for advice on how to better calibrate their drop shot.

Unless you’re a nationally ranked player, (and even then!) I’m sure you can relate to having days (or… ahem… entire pickleball careers) when you can’t seem to get the darn ball over the net from the back of the court without giving your opponent a cream-puff of a put-away shot to slam back at your feet.

From the dink to the drop shot, the secret to moving yourself from a defensive position into an offensive position in pickleball is to get the ball to drop relatively close to the net, inside the no-volley/kitchen line so that your opponent is forced to let it bounce before hitting it.

Because the pickleball doesn’t bounce high, that usually forces them to hit UP on the ball rather than hit down, which is always a disadvantageous position in pickleball.  (For a more in depth discussion of why this is true, check out my article The Top 3 Reasons You MUST Play at The No-Volley Line + 2 Lies You Tell Yourself When You’re There.)

So let’s say you understand and buy in to the concept that in order to win a pickleball game against better players, you gotta get up to the net, and the best way to get up to the net from the back of the court is to take advantage of the no-volley rule by hitting a drop shot, and rushing to the line while you’re opponent is letting the ball bounce.

As I’m sure you’ll be the first to admit, understanding the concept intellectually is a far cry from being able to physically implement it.

So here are my best tips for how to hit a drop shot that actually drops out of your opponent’s wheelhouse & doesn’t go into the net.

#1: Hit the Ball Just Before the Second Bounce

After the ball bounces, you actually have much more time than you expect to hit it before it bounces again.  Many players try to take the ball after the bounce & before the ball reaches the top of the next arch.  But in order to get the most control of your shot, you need to wait and hit the ball AFTER it has passed the top of the arch, while it’s on it’s way back down, and right before it is going to make a a second bounce.  Now I realize this is a question of seconds or milliseconds, but it really will make a big difference the longer you can wait to hit the ball.

This gives you more time to see where your opponents are positioning themselves, so that you can position the ball where they are not.  The ball has also slowed down considerably by the time it gets there, so you have less speed to counteract.

Before the second bounce

#2: Lift with Your Knees

When I played & spectated at the Grand Canyon State Games in Surprise, AZ this past month, I paid special attention to the fact that nearly all the best players lift with their knees.  Average height, short or tall, the best players all bend their knees & lift their paddle. 

I’m not sure I can even explain the mechanics of why this is true, but when you bend your knees and use your whole body to lift your paddle and scoop the ball, you’ll have more control than you ever thought possible.

When you bend & lift with your knees, you are forced to get your timing right.  This means you’re not just reaching out to get your paddle in front or unconsciously reacting to the shot, but you are positioning yourself closer to the ball and in a better position to hit it.

The improvement in your accuracy when you make the shot is absolutely worth every minute of practice to get the timing down.

#3: Don’t Swing & Hit: Instead Scoop the Ball

Just put your paddle in place and scoop the ball up & where you want it to go (as you’re lifting with your knees).  The motion of your paddle should be more in an upward direction than a front-to-back swing.

With a deep back-swing your paddle moves the course of several feet in just a few seconds.  That range of motion of the paddle makes it very difficult to hit the ball consistently shot after shot.

When you reduce the swinging motion, you reduce the variability of your shot, and therefore make it more consistent.

If any of you have my friend Coach Mo’s video, he talks about aiming the face of your paddle before you hit the shot, and that is the same theory — minimize the amount of motion before the ball gets to you, so that you can maximize your consistency.

So instead of swinging your paddle, imagine it was a bowling ball. Now, a bowling ball is so heavy, and has such momentum, that we really must stay in control of it while we swing the ball back, and as we push it forward.  That is exactly the speed, motion, and control that I want you to give your paddle while you hit your drop shot.  Try it, see the difference, and then give me your feedback.

#4: Aim for an Arch, Not a Dying Quail

Aim for a drop-shot that has a considerable arch on it, that peaks somewhere over the kitchen line on your side of the net and drops across the net.

Now, this certainly isn’t the ONLY way to hit a drop shot, but you’ll find it gives you the greatest control & the greatest consistency.  Some of you know my wife, Wendy Garrido, who is an excellent, 5.0 player who has taken a couple Gold Medals at Nationals for her age group and placed 4th in the Women’s Doubles Open division in 2012.

Now Wendy also does most of my writing & editing so I promise you that she included this because she thought it would help you…Wendy’s most common way to hit a drop shot is what a friend of ours termed “the dying quail.”  The ball travels at a pretty horizontal trajectory until it passes the net, and then seemingly drops straight down (like a bird shot out of the air).  It’s a very difficult shot to return, but the problem is, it’s also a very difficult one to hit consistently, and if she doesn’t hit it exactly right, it usually lands in the net.

Instead, give yourself some wiggle room.  Hit the ball so it has plenty of room over the net by aiming your arch, like I said, over the kitchen or kitchen line on your side of the court.

arch not quail

(For the record, Wendy says she does agree that my way of hitting the drop shot is more effective for her, it’s simply that old habits are hard to break & she hasn’t spent much time on it since we had our daughter in 2012.)

So those are my  The 4 Secrets to Getting Your Dropshot to Go Where You Want (And Not Where You Don’t).  I hope this article has already given you some new things to think about and I would love to hear how it goes as you try to put them into play.

So does that all make sense to you?  Any questions?  Comments?  Hypothetical situations?

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Top 3 Reasons You MUST Play at The No-Volley Line

Top 3 Reasons You MUST Play at The No-Volley Line

If you want to improve your game (and not just keep beating the same people you always beat) you HAVE to get up to the kitchen and play from right behind the no-volley line.

You life-long tennis players — Yes, I’m talking to you!

You’re not playing tennis anymore, and although the racket-skills you developed in tennis will serve you well, the physics of a pickleball game are simply different.

You. Must. Get. To. The. (No-Volley) Line.

Not ON the line, of course, but RIGHT BEHIND it.  I mean, plant your feet 1-2″ from the line and don’t move back.  Move side to side as needed.  Step one foot into the kitchen to take a ball on the bounce, but play from RIGHT BEHIND the line.

 

Reason #1: You Can Hit the Ball DOWN

First of all, a pickleball will never bounce as high as a tennis ball, and will rarely bounce as high as the net, so anytime you take it off the bounce, you’ll have to add some loft to your return shot and effectively hit the ball on an upward trajectory.

In pickleball, if the ball is going at an upward angle after it crosses the net, this is always bad news.  This is true at the the net, of course.  But the farther back you move from the line, the more likely you are to have to hit the ball at an upward angle.  (Until eventually, you’re forced to either lob or hit a drop shot and in case you missed that article, here’s why lobbing isn’t a great strategy.)

winning-angleBecause any shot you hit when you are not up at the line is either a defensive shot or is likely to go into the net.

Reason #2: You Drastically Reduce Your Opponents’ Options (And Have Less Court to Cover)

Here’s another tidbit to chew on:

Because a pickleball court is only 20′ wide, a doubles team at the net can effectively cover 50% of the court without moving an inch side to side (assuming even just a 5′ wing span for each player).  As you may know, in tennis, you can barely cover 25% of the net, so it makes sense to stay back and move laterally to cover the court, plus you have time after the ball bounces to get to where it’s going to be.

In pickleball, though, you don’t NEED to move back to cover the court and in fact, the farther back you are, the more angles you open up, unnecessarily giving your opponent many more options to play against you.

play-at-mid-courtplay-at-the-line

Reason #3: It Puts You On the Offensive

Why run around trying to get balls your opponent his past you when you can stay at the net and practically force them to hit a great shot or hit the ball right to you?

It’s a rare shot in tennis when a player can smash the ball down on the other side, or even at their opponent’s feet.  But this is the bread & butter of a winning pickleball game. (Assuming, of course, your opponent doesn’t make an unforced error first.)

The farther you move back from the net, the less of a view you have of the other side of the court.

That means the less likely it is you can hit a smash at your opponent’s feet when they pop the ball up.  Instead, you’ll have to wait to hit a less offensive shot off the bounce.  (And if you’re like a lot of tennis players, you’ll try for what amounts to a line drive, and swear under your breath as the ball hits the top (or even the middle) of the net.

The farther you are from the no-volley line, the easier it is for your opponent to drop a ball very short.

If you’re not very mobile, then you probably just lost the point.  If you ARE quick on your feed, then you’ll probably race in to get the ball.  But chances are, you will lose control of your shot & hit it up into your opponent’s wheelhouse, where you’ll give them a great put-away shot and if they have even a 20% clue about how to play the game, they will smash the ball at your feet.

End of point.

All because you chose to hang back instead of play up at the line.

I’m not saying you can’t run around like a headless chicken, make amazing defensive shots and potentially, eventually win the point.  I’m just saying it’s not particularly “smart” pickleball and you’ll never take control of the point when you’re hitting from mid-court or behind.

For those (few) of you who have speed to use instead of smarts, more power to you.  Many a singles player has gone far (and won national medals) on speed alone.  But doubles is a different game.

I Bet You’re Telling One of These Two Lies To Yourself  About Playing at The Line

Now, many players, have at least some sense that they should get to the line, so they head that way.  But they make 1 of 2 mistakes.

Lie #1:  I am “at the line” if I am within 36″ of the line.

No way, jose! Plant your feet about 2″ from the line, and get in the habit of never stepping forward except to hit a ball off the bounce in the kitchen, and then quickly stepping back out.  (Drill on that so you don’t get called on foot-faults, or worse, NOT get called on them & marvel at the excellent shots you’re hitting, only to find out in a tournament that they weren’t actually so legal as you thought.  At the most, you might step back 8″ or so to take a ball before it bounces, but being 2′ from the line is NOT considered playing at the line.

Lie #2: Getting up to the line at all is the same as staying at the line.

I always tell my students, never, ever, ever back up from the line to take a ball.  Because once you back up, it’s hard to come back, and it’s more likely your opponent will just keep hitting them at your feet to push you back from the line, shot by shot.

Instead, take the ball in the air.  Many people think that if they are standing at the kitchen line and the ball is bouncing at or near their feet, they HAVE to back up to take it off the bounce.  In fact, this is just because they are taking the ball later than they should be.  If the ball is going to bounce at your feet, then the trajectory is such that you probably could have taken it in the air.

dont-take-it-on-the-bounceThe diagram above is relatively conservative.  Often the ball will be even closer to your body if you are right up at the kitchen line, so again, this is something you’ll have to drill on, but get in the habit of taking the ball in the air instead of backing up from the kitchen line.

So does that all make sense to you?  Any questions?  Comments?  Hypothetical situations?

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TOP 2 pickleball strategies for a strong defense after a bad shot

TOP 2 pickleball strategies for a strong defense after a bad shot

If you’ve been following my articles for some time now, you (hopefully) understand the importance of hitting a drop shot for the “critical third shot.”  I’ve written about WHY this shot is so important in this article getting up to the net. I’ve even written about HOW to hit a good drop shot.

What I haven’t yet spent much time on is what the heck you’re supposed to do when it all goes wrong.  ‘Cuz (at the risk of sounding like a fortune cookie) I predict that in the very near future you or your partner WILL give your opponents a cream-puff of a shot that is gonna result in the ball being slammed down your throat if you’re not in a good defensive position.  (And sometimes even if you are.)

That’s why I’ve put together my Top 2 pickleball strategies for how to put up a strong defense when you’ve accidentally put the ball in your opponent’s wheelhouse. Take these strategies and practice them with another team. We all would like a drop-shot that drops on command just over the net, but sometimes the ball hangs more than it should. Here are the pickleball strategies I recommend in that situation.

Strategy #1:  Know Whether to Stay or Go

If You’re Up, Stay Up & Get Your Paddle Up.

If you are in perfect position at the kitchen (a.k.a. no-volley) line (and you’re not deluding yourself with one of the 2 Lies You Tell Yourself When You’re There) then make sure your paddle is up, and just STAY IN POSITION.

You’re already in a good position to see the ball & the court and you won’t have time to back-track anyway, so stay there, get your paddle up, and keep your eye on the ball.

If You’re Anywhere Other Than Up, Get Back & Get Your Paddle Up

If you’ve found yourself creeping back from the no-volley line, or if it’s early in the point and you haven’t managed to GET to the kitchen, and you know you or your partner has hit a lousy shot, then move your derriere BACKWARD quickly.  Get about a foot or two behind the service line & get your paddle out in front of you… preferably before your opponent has even hit the ball.

You’ll come across a few players who tell you that no matter how high their “drop shot” was or how low their lob, they are just gonna charge to the net with their paddle at the ready because they have lightening-fast instincts at the net. Hey, you know me, I say that if it works for them, more power to ‘em. 

But for the rest of us, whose reflexes may not be what they used to be, or for those who simply want to play SMARTER pickleball, backing up to the service line makes sense because it gives you more TIMETime is the secret ingredient that will let you pick up a ball many others will miss, it is what will let you place the ball exactly where your opponents are not, and it is what will help you recover from a rotten shot. So when you pop the ball up, buy yourself some time.

Strategy #2: Move Left or Right Before They Even Hit The Ball

Knowing what to expect is another way to buy yourself more time because you can get into position BEFORE your opponent even hits the ball.

covering-when-you-pop-it-up-rightWhen a right-handed person hits an overhead, it is nearly always going to go in front of them, or to THEIR left side because of the mechanics of the hips, shoulder and elbow.   Only very “wristy” players will hit an “inside out” shot, where the ball flies off their paddle to their right.  When you’re playing against one of the few of them (or should I say us?), you’ll have to take that into account, but for the vast majority of players you’ll find yourself across the net from, you can bet that when they slam the ball, it’s gonna go to the middle of your court, or to your RIGHT.

  1. When a right-handed opponent is on the “even” side of the court, he or she will most likely hit the ball to the center or to the sideline on your right, so it’s best for you & your partner to shift your positioning to the right, so that the person on the odd court is near the centerline and the person on the even court is near the right-hand sideline.

covering-when-you-pop-it-up-leftWhen a right-handed opponent is on the “odd” side of the court, they have tend to rotate their body open to the right in order to get a better aim at the court, so they will most often hit toward the center of the court, but occasionally toward your left, so it’s best for you & your partner to shift your positioning to the left, so that the person on the odd court is near the left-hand sideline and the person on the even court is near the center line.

This will give you the best chance of being in the right position to be able to return the slam.

Of course, there are going to be times when there’s nothing you can do but mutter under your breath and wince as the ball gets pounded at your feet.  But for the rest of the times, I hope that this article has given you some new strategies to implement next time you or your partner hits a bad shot.  Remember, it’s not over ’til it’s over, so stay in the game, anticipate your opponent’s shot & try to stay in the point.  Then comment below with your thoughts, feelings & questions.

 

19 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Introverted

19 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Introverted

Like many categorizing systems, the separatist thinking behind them attempts to firmly place us in one container or another.  The flaw in these types of systems is that they don’t always take into account the middle areas of the spectrum.  And any system is just that: a spectrum.  I’ve long stated with unequivocal certainty that I’m introverted.  My friends, however, look at me askance, because I’m actually very fun-loving and outgoing when I need to be.  So on that introvert/extravert spectrum, I fall somewhere to the introverted side, but exhibit limited extroverted tendencies.  Here is an article found online that I have updated to reflect this spectrumized system.

1. You’re not anti-social, you’re selectively social.

2. At any given point, you have one (maybe two) best friends who are your entire life. You’re not a “group of friends” person. You can’t keep up with all that.

3. Social gatherings that are supposed to be “rites of passage” like prom and dances and other such typical nonsense is just… not for you. You don’t understand it. You want nothing to do with it.

4. When you do choose to grace a party with your presence, you are the life of it. You’re dancing on the table and doing body shots until 3 a.m.

5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover.

6. You go out of your way to avoid people, but when you inevitably have to interact with them, you make it seem like there’s nothing in the world you’d rather be doing.

7. Dating is weird, because you’re smiling and laughing and talkative at dinner, and then you don’t want to answer their texts for four days, because like, you just want to be left alone…

8. You’re accused of being flirty with everybody, which is hilarious, because in reality, you can only tolerate like four people.

9. You retain an air of mysteriousness about you, completely unintentionally. (There’s no mystery. You just feel no need to update the social sphere on what’s going on in your life every two hours.)

10. Not to mention the fact that you either have days in which you’re tweeting and status updating every five minutes… or you delete your accounts for a month.

11. You become unintentionally awkward because you at once feel the need to be a social life jacket for other people, though you’re just as uncomfortable yourself.

12. You’ve never really understood the whole “introvert vs. extrovert” dichotomy (can we call it that?) Because you’re… both…

13. You’re always run through the ringer because people think you’re best suited to be the one who gives the presentation, confronts the boss, gives the speech, etc. Meanwhile, you’re practically throwing up over the thought of it.

14. You ebb and flow between wanting to be noticed for your hard work, reveling in the attention and achievement you receive, to sinking and panicking over the thought of somebody else paying more than 30 seconds of attention to you.

15. The entirety of your being is a conundrum, so needless to say, indecisiveness is your Achilles’ Heel.

16. You’re at your happiest in places like coffee shops and cafés: surrounded by people, but still closed off and keeping to yourself.

17. You prefer to travel alone, but meet up with people once you’re there, on your own terms and at your own speed.

18. It’s taken you years to figure out that you’re different than many introverts you know. Literal years.

19. While we were chastised as children for daydreaming, we do so deliberately as adultsas our inner lives are rich, fertile, and sustain us.

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Things You Should Know About Introverts

Things You Should Know About Introverts

From MeetTheIntroverts.com

 

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1) We need to recharge alone.
This right here is the cusp of the entire introvert v. extrovert debate (if there is one, anyway) – Introverts need to be alone to recharge. We tend to get completely worn out by socializing. This is basically what it means to be an introvert.

2) We don’t hate being around people, but we probably hate crowds.
I love being with people, but if you drop me into a large crowd I instantly feel like I’m alone and invisible. I try to avoid situations where I feel that way, so I may decline your open invitation to some random event. It doesn’t mean I don’t like to be around you, it just means I like to have more control over my surroundings.

3) We don’t mind silence. 
I can sit beside you in silence and not think we are having a bad time. This is especially true on road trips and can be a little confounding to true extroverts. For this reason, I especially like going to the movies where it is already considered rude to chat. Rule #1 for dealing with introverts – Don’t tell me I’m “too quiet.” I hate that. Sorry I’m making you uncomfortable, but you really don’t get to decide how much I have to talk.

4) Just because we are introverted doesn’t mean we are shy.
Introvert and shy are actually two different things. Google it! In my case, I’m a shy introvert (the double whammy!).

5) We can turn on an extroverted personality when necessary, but it is especially draining.
See #1 and #2. I have no problem getting up in front of a group of people and giving a talk. I don’t even get nervous by a question and answer period. But – here is the thing – I will need major recharge time afterwards and I won’t be able to keep up this extroverted illusion all day. I can turn it on to dazzle a crowd, but if you take me out for lunch afterwards, I’ll probably just listen to you talk. I am an excellent listener.

6) We aren’t judging you. 
See #3. Did I get quiet? Do I have a mean look on my face? I’m not judging you; I’m just wrapped up in my thoughts with my bitchy-resting-face on. I might have even forgotten you were there. Sorry, just poke me. I didn’t do it on purpose.

7) We secretly love it when you cancel plans.
I like being with you, but finding out I suddenly don’t need to be “on” and it wasn’t actually me that backed out? – priceless! Don’t worry if you have to cancel, I’m probably thrilled to be able to stay in my pajamas.

8) We can get very wrapped up in our own thoughts.
My inner monologue is epic. When you have a strong monologue constantly running in the background, it is pretty easy to settle-in and listen for a while. I have to work through things in my head before I proceed, so I usually need a few minutes. When I’m ready to move forward though, I am 100% on top of it!

9) We can be pretty bad at connecting. 
You know when you have had a really bad day and you just want to call up a friend and chat? Yeah, I’m bad at that. I tend to wait for extroverts to reach out and include me, so when the time comes that I need support, I can be a bit lost.

10) We don’t like to hang around.
That time after an event or meeting ends and stragglers hang around to talk – yeah, I know this is the perfect time to make more plans, connect with new people, and get involved with future projects, but I really really really hate this. I’m probably already checking my phone in my car before you have even picked up your purse. Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.

11) We have strong opinions.
Just because I have difficultly sharing them sometimes doesn’t mean I don’t have opinions. Give me an extra minute to compose my thoughts and I will continue to push myself to speak up sooner. It is a give and take here.

What the Pope’s popularity says about American culture

The pope's popularity counters the narrative that American society opposes Christians because of their religion. | Photo credit: Catholic Church England and Wales - (http://bit.ly/1s36629)

As if we needed one more reason to love Pope Francis.

On Monday, the pope said the Catholic Church should “weep and make reparation” for its sexual abuse crimes. In a series of strong comments made at a Mass with abuse victims, he said the church’s actions had taken on the dimensions of a “sacrilegious cult.”

The pope’s actions are only the latest to be praised by both secular and religious journalists and commentators who join the masses of adoring fans around the world. He always seems to be hugging a disabled child, washing the feet of prisoners, embracing a disfigured person, or making uncommonly compassionate comments about a marginalized people group, and scooping up people’s adoration as a result.

late 2013 CNN poll found that 88 percent of American Catholics approve of Francis’ handling his role. But most notably, three in four Americans said they view him favorably. Even many atheists have expressed their affection for the leader. Not only was the pope the most talked about person on the Internet in 2013, he was also named person of the year by The Advocate, a leading LGBT publication.

What does the pope’s popularity—even among secular populations—say about broader culture? For one thing, it says that American society is actually more open and amenable to Christians and the Christian faith than some assume.

From the military to the halls of institutions of higher education, some Christians claim that they are being derided, marginalized, and flat-out discriminated against. Brietbart’s Austin Ruse—who once stated that gay people were “intrinsically disordered and abnormal”—has argued “Christians are now in hostile territory at work.” In fact, 71 percent of evangelical Christians said secularism was the greatest threat to religion according to Pew Research in 2011.

The country’s nearly ubiquitous adoration of the pope challenges such assertions. Marvin Olasky, for example, warns of an anti-Christian bias in American news media. How does he make sense of the pro-pope coverage in mainstream outlets? Conservative web site RedState.com claimed that Time magazine was also anti-Christian. Then why would the publication name Pope Francis its 2013 person of the year?

And what about those who claim that Hollywood is rabidly anti-Christian? How do they reconcile this with the blossoming faith-based film boom happening within many major movie studios?

What is happening across culture is, per usual, more complicated than some assume. Americans are not intrinsically allergic to Christians, but rather certain expressions of Christianity. The pope’s popularity helps us understand exactly which types of Christianity people resist.

Americans accept Christians who advocate for the marginalized.
Americans resist Christians who seek power to marginalize others.

Americans accept Christians who want to serve society.
Americans resist Christians who want to be served by society.

Americans accept Christians who are as clear-eyed about the failures of their community as well as others’.
Americans resist Christians who are partisan and tribal.

Americans accept Christians who are compassionate and speak with humility.
Americans resist Christians who are cantankerous and speak with hubris.

This is not a uniquely 21st century trend, of course. Rewind to the 1990s: Mother Teresa vs. Jerry Falwell. The point is that people don’t like mean people and judgmental people and power-hungry people, regardless of their religion. Most people dislike Christian jerks because they are jerks, not because they are Christian.  (According to a 2013 Barna poll, about 51% of self-identified Christians are characterized by having the attitudes and actions that are “Pharisaical” as opposed to “Christlike.”)

But misdiagnosing the impetus for society’s rejection of some Christians is advantageous for those who have a vested interest in the matter. Perpetuating the everybody-hates-Christians narrative allows people to victimize themselves, demonize others, incite fear, and raise truckloads of money.

Some secularists and atheists, of course, despise Christians just for being Christians. But the Richard Dawkins brand of adversary is the outlier and the exception. The far-reaching popularity of the pope proves that there is more at work in the minds of the masses than an intrinsic, irrational hatred of the Christian faith.

Recognizing the complexity of this cultural narrative provides an opportunity for those who call themselves “Christians” to reflect on why they are actually encountering some resistance from some sectors of society. Is any of it deserved? Which opposition can be written off as irrational disdain and which is legitimate defiance to a malformation of the faith? When is the social tension a necessary result of speaking prophetically and when are we paying a price unnecessarily?

American Christians should be asking these questions frequently, but most aren’t. It’s easier to swallow the pill of a simplistic narrative than reflect on the complexities of reality. But living a life of faith demands the latter.

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